Woman got Boot for Speaking Truth about Black-White Dating
Gregory Kane, BlackAmericaWeb, Apr. 15
You have to give it to Raqiyah Mays for daring to go where few go these days.
Mays is a former DJ for radio station WWPR in New York City. She was fired in March after being afflicted with an attack of honesty. During a show in which listeners were called on to make personal confessions, Mays made one of her own.
“My confession this hour is that I’m a racist,” Mays said according to several news reports. “I really am. I have a problem with white people. Not all white people, but a lot of white people. I can’t tell if they are being real with me or not. And then I hate when the black guy is walking down the street with the white girl. I hate both of them. C’mon, there’s a man shortage.”
Those words got Mays the boot. She has since been hired by WQHT, a rival station of WWPR.
Two weeks ago Mays went on Fox News Channel’s “Hannity & Colmes” show, where these two white guys presumed they were able to feel the sistah on her views about interracial dating.
Newsflash, Messrs. Hannity & Colmes. You can’t feel Mays, or any other black woman, on this one. Your race and gender preclude that.
Taken in its entire context, Mays was clearly talking about a situation where black men — already in short supply for black women looking for husbands or boyfriends — snub eligible black women to chase after white women. What would either Hannity or Colmes know about that?
Trust me, I know what Mays is talking about. I saw her on “Hannity & Colmes,” and the sistah is as fine as they come. She’s probably tired of seeing black men not just with white women, but ugly, chubby white women at that.
Yeah, I said it. And I’m not sorry, because what we’re talking about here is rejection.
Most guys, whether they want to admit it or not, know all about rejection. And we all know that it’s not being rejected by women we desperately want that hurts. It’s the knuckleheads we get rejected for that makes us bristle.
Black women, especially the drop-dead gorgeous ones like Mays, probably feel the same way when they see a black man with a white woman so ugly they figure the brother is only with her because he lost a bet. Mays had the guts to stand up and say how she felt.
I prefer her honesty to the way Hollywood producers and writers approach the subject of interracial romancing. Have you noticed it?
Nine times out of 10, in a television show or movie, the black-white romance is one involving a white man and a black woman. The black man-white woman liaison is shown only rarely, but the Hollywood muckety-mucks figure they’re being cutting edge by presenting the “taboo” subject of interracial romance with a white man/black woman combination.
But as the late Strom Thurmond proved, the white man/black woman romantic liaison has never really been taboo. Oh, it was said to be, but that was with the proverbial wink-wink and nudge-nudge. That’s why Halle Berry has done a string of consecutive films in which her love interest was a white man.
Can anybody tell me the last time Berry kissed a black man on-screen?
I thought not. Now suppose Denzel Washington had done a string of movies with a white woman as his romantic lead. He hasn’t, and couldn’t if he wanted to. Those same Hollywood honchos who are only too happy to promote the white man/black woman romance would see that his career ended pretty darned quick. Black women wouldn’t be too happy with him either — and rightly so.
But brothers aren’t supposed to mention what’s clearly happening in the case of Berry. We’d be considered, at best, poor sports if we did. Mays, who approached the dilemma from the black man/white woman side, was considered less than a poor sport.
If she is, you can probably put perhaps thousands of other black women in that category with her.